Healing from the toxic Narcissistic Psychopath

Have your been left with unresolved feelings of Anger or symptoms of Post Traumatic Stress?

Are you left lacking the confidence in yourself, or an inability to trust other people?

Do you feel like you will never have a normal relationship again?

Many victims are left scarred and damaged by being in relationships with Narcissists and Sociopaths but it is possible to heal from a relationship with a Dark Soul, given the right tools.

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When you end a relationship with a Dark Soul, there is always “unfinished business”. In a normal relationship, one grieves and is eventually left with some positive feelings. With a Dark Soul, you are left coming to terms with the fact that you were not an object of 'love' but a source of narcissistic supply. Any nostalgic memories and tender memories of affection you have for them are corrupted by their hidden agenda and lies. Everything about the relationship shifts into the stark, clinical light of the DSM IV manual as you realise they are disordered. Despite the fact that you are totally relieved that they are out of your life, you always retain some unresolved grief, perhaps wondering “Who are they hurting now?” or “Will they ever come into my life again?”. They will always leave us with something that stops us from forgiving them completely.

Unlike a normal relationship, you are just left with a hole. 

When the target is highly empathic and stays in a relationship with narcissist or Dark Soul they may end picking up their unowned “stuff” and taking those feelings on as their own. If they are not careful they end up being a gunk bucket or a dumping ground for the Darks Souls toxic feelings. These are the unowned feelings Dark Soul's want to project onto us.

Until you fully heal, you are left with unresolved pot of bubbling emotions and toxic gunk.

There are many books that discuss sociopaths, psychopaths and narcissists, but few that actually give a step-by-step process to recovery from these Dark Souls, nor how much they damage us spiritually. None of them look at the victims and their little red flags as to why they attracted these people in the first place. I discuss how our own negative core beliefs draw these people to us and enable the victim to recognise the signs of an abusive, toxic relationship, giving them tools to help them heal.

Empaths are more likely to be targeted by Dark Souls and we need essential tools to protect ourselves energetically not only from a physical, no-contact point of view, but also from an energetic and spiritual point of view.  Any kind of victim can be damaged by a psychopath.

Some psychopaths have an innate ability to detect the emotions of others and can mimic caring and friendship in a convincing manner. This often appears as Empathy. While some psychopaths can detect what others are feeling, they do not experience any reciprocal emotion or sympathy. Psychopaths are extremely good at sensing another person's feelings but the difference is that they use it to manipulate and exploit others.

For this reason its often extremely difficult to spot a Dark Soul or psychopathic personalities. By the time you have started to realise something is wrong its often too late.

When you have left a Dark Soul or psychopath, the first emotions you are most like to go through as a result of surviving any kind of abuse is guilt. Very often survivors will recall events and saying things like "I should have known…." Or "If only I hadn't done this or that…." Sometimes, it is easier to blame ourselves than to admit that the abuser was at fault.

When you have come out of a relationship with a Dark Soul you are most likely to suffer from Shock and Disbelief, which is discussed in more detail in the book in a section on Post Traumatic Stress, most likely after you thought you had resolved all the other feelings you have. Sometimes the target (and yes you were a target) will have an increasingly hard time facing up to the fact that the abuse had taken place, even going so far as to make excuses for their abusers behaviour in the hope that they might be “healed” or “fixed” someday.

In addition to PSTD,  I explain how to cope with it, understand it, along with practical ways you can look after yourself, especially if you are left financially, physically and/or emotionally damaged.

There are many other emotions you will be feeling, one of which is anger. Anger is a healthy and common reaction for a survivor, as long as the anger is not aimed at themselves. Anger can be a helpful tool for regaining the strength and the courage needed to get back control of their life. Victims are often left with a lack of confidence and trust in their own abilities to make judgements and a distinct feeling of powerlessness; they may often decide not to have relationships again.

Dark Souls - Healing and Recovering from Toxic Relationships, looks the various different ways these emotions affect us and if you are willing to look within yourself and take control back of your life this passes. Eventually you are able to start to trust again and will move from target or victim, through to survivor to become healed.