"Dark Souls" is, however, far more than the
story of her experiences. It also provides powerful step-by-step guidelines for those who are
ready to begin dealing with narcissists and particularly to those who want to escape from
their clutches, or better still avoid getting caught in the first place. I can recommend it
as essential reading and I will certainly be recommending it to my clients here in
John B Nutting Clinical
Counsellor, BA (Psych)
"Dark Souls is a must-read if you've ever been involved
with an exploitative personality, and a recommended read even if you haven't. It examines in
great depth who these personalities are, what makes them tick, and why they are so dangerous.
Most importantly, it addresses, very effectively, how to avoid these insidious individuals
and, if this is too late, how to recover from them. A welcome, important addition to the
"Engaging book from Sarah offering a look inside the minds of
psychopaths and narcissists as well as the minds and emotional traits of the people that tend to be
their victims, people who have oodles of empathy, tolerance and compassion but sadly have
self-esteem issues themselves. She gives us a plethora of red flags to look for in terms of the
psychopath`s and narcissist`s behaviour from her own personal experience and her own analysis.
Sarah`s experience and thoughts are useful to read about in further identifying and learning more
information about the pathological personalities of these "Dark Souls" and people`s difficulty and
attachment to them. Her book further suggests to the reader useful coping mechanisms and ideas
which are so important for a person finding themselves in this very difficult situation, a position
where one can die a death of the spirit by hanging around too long with
Dr. Michael G Millett Ph.D Elevated Therapy International
PLEASE NOTE: This website is dedicated to
helping women and men who have been in abusive toxic relationships with Dark Souls or people
suffering from Narcissistic Personality Disorder and/or Psychopathy. It is also likely to help
anyone who has come out of an abusive relationship with an exploitive
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Five years on from the writing Dark
Souls and Pheonix Spirit I have decided to keep up this website for information purposes. You can
use the relavant links on the page toArticles,Vidoes, blog links and
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I have also recently moved all the other
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If you are in immediate danger please ensure
you get professional help from the relevant authorities. There are plenty of support
links on the links page.
Mr Invinsible - the Invisible Psychpaths amongst us
In this website you will also find many resources to help you understand psychopaths,
sociopaths, narcissists and Narcissistic Personality Disorder, along with my book Dark Souls
- Healing and Recovering from Toxic Relationships.
Any type of person can be drawn to a Dark Soul usually because they are charismatic, charming
and manipulative. However often their victims are Empaths. Why is this? Because they are able to
mimic feelings and emotions that for us is genuine, but for them is a tool. And because they
"appear" to be much like us, we think that they are also Empaths. Sadly nothing could be
further from the truth!
“The Dark Soul is like an artist
with a blank canvas, waiting for direction, who can mould and shape themself at will. They
will appear to be anything you want them to be. They watch and wait for you to give him
subtle clues, and direction before he picks up the brush and then he'll paint the perfect
When you meet a Dark Soul, what you see on the outside label, or
the bottle, is NOT what is inside. It’s only when you drink it that you find out its
No matter how long you have been with a Dark Soul, finding the strength to leave
the relationships and recover from their toxic energy is not easy. Many victims feel helpless,
worthless and often suicidal. Psychopathic predators will delight at taking
anything from you; your money, possessions - and if they can get away with it,
For those readers who may have read every other book on psychopathy,
narcissism or victims or abuse, there comes a point after being in a relationship with a
disordered personality whereby they no longer want to be a victim or a survivor. Sarah
Strudwick's second book "The Phoenix" takes the reader through her own journey 2 years post
psychopath. She also uses the examples of other victims of abuse and explains why its so
important to find the mythological part of ourselves in order that we can finally move on from
abuse. The stories include those who have been able to move on and those who remain stuck. The
book covers many topics from sorting out the devastating aftermath and mess we are often left
with to trusting our own intuition in the future and exploring love again. With a guest chapter
by best selling author Dr George Simon, author of "Character Disturbance", who discusses why
therapy is useful for targets and why it may not be so helpful for those who have pathology. The
Phoenix Spirit is a book for those who want to put all the abuse firmly behind them, whether
they were a target who is struggling to move on, or someone who is thinking about inspiring
others with their own stories, and wants to ultimately learn how to really move on and thrive
There are few books on Narcissistic Personality Disorder or Psychopaths, least of
all how it feels to have been in relationship with one.
Healing from such damaging relationships takes time. Many people do not understand
the complexities or the dynamics of these kinds of relationships which are primarily about sex,
power and/or control. The Dark Soul is an abuser and he needs a willing
victim who will enable him.
In Dark Souls - Healing and
Recovering from Toxic Relationships, you will find tools that you can use to
facilitate your own healing journey along with useful insights and carefully researched material
to support the pathology of these people. It explores the many ways in which they are likely to
manipulate us, the mind games, the lies and more importantly the reason they chose us in the
first place. This book places direct responsibility on the victims to look at their own
behaviour and ask themselves “why did this happen?” without going into blame and guilt.
Why am I so passionate about telling my own story and helping others to get out of
denial and giving them the tools to heal that I did not have?
When I finally ended the relationships with my Ex I was left financially,
emotionally and spiritually broken. Having spend years researching their condition with the help
of wonderful professionals and experts trying to understand him and hoping he would change and
"get it" the penny finally dropped and I "got it".
“Hindsite is a wonderful thing and if I have learnt
anything from this experience, it is how to spot these predators before they spot me. The irony
is had I written this book ten years ago I would never given him the time of day. My wish is
that "Dark Souls" gives my readers the tools I never
"If you've been involved with someone who seemed to be your dream
come true, but turned out to suck all the energy, financial resources and happiness out of you,
then Sarah Strudwick's new book, "Dark Souls: Healing and Recovering from Toxic Relationships" is
worth reading. This book, written by a very well-informed survivor of a toxic relationship with a
narcissistic sociopath, offers a wealth of information about the key symptoms of sociopathy and
malignant narcissism; an inspiring tale of the author's personal journey of coping with a hellish
relationship and her survival; information about other helpful books and resources that can help
victims; and, last but not least, a dab of wry British humor to entertain you.
Dark Souls gets to the essence of what makes personality disordered
individuals so predatory, ruthless and dangerous. It exposes their luring techniques, when such
individuals seem to be perfect and adapt to your ideals. It reveals why this is only a mask to hide
these social predators' real motives, which is to use and abuse others for their personal gain and
It explains the physiological and psychological manifestations of
sociopathy and narcissism, exploring the reasons behind their shallowness of emotions that leads
these predators to con, deceive, beguile, torment and sometimes physically harm others.
The book also examines, in an introspective and highly informative
manner, the profile of their chosen targets: whom social predators tend to select and why. Although
nobody is immune from victimization by sociopaths and narcissists, Strudwick indicates that these
predators tend to pick the emphatic, vulnerable and needy out of the herd. She traces the root of
this vulnerability to childhood upbringing, using her own life as an example. This doesn't mean,
however, that their chosen victims are weak. The author also goes on to explain that sociopaths
tend to target strong and principled victims.
They prefer individuals whom they initially regard as a challenge,
later use as a false front and, when they are finally unmasked, who won't behave towards them as
unscrupulously as they do (by lying, cheating and/or defrauding others).
While there are quite a few informative books on narcissism and sociopathy, "Dark Souls" still
manages to bring a lot to the literature on the subject through its wit and spiritual perspective.
This book uses the metaphor of the "dark soul" and the concept of spiritual energy to explain how
psychopaths and narcissists drain our emotional energy as well as to point to a road of recovery
and personal flourishing once we end these toxic relationships. "
This website is dedicated to educating people about Narcissistic
Personality, Sociopaths, Psychopaths, Psychopathy, Narcissm, Empaths, Toxic Relationships, Relationships of
Inevitable Harm, Abusive Relationships, Cyber Predators, Internet Predators, Co-dependence, Energy Vampires, Shape
Shifters, and men who cheat